The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Coddled Kids, Helicopter Parents, and Other Phony Crises

The Myth of the Spoiled Child Coddled Kids Helicopter Parents and Other Phony Crises None

  • Title: The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Coddled Kids, Helicopter Parents, and Other Phony Crises
  • Author: Alfie Kohn
  • ISBN: 9780807073889
  • Page: 227
  • Format: Paperback
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    About “Alfie Kohn”

    1. Alfie Kohn

      Alfie Kohn writes and speaks widely on human behavior, education, and parenting The author of eleven books and scores of articles, he lectures at education conferences and universities as well as to parent groups and corporations.Kohn s criticisms of competition and rewards have been widely discussed and debated, and he has been described in Time magazine as perhaps the country s most outspoken critic of education s fixation on grades and test scores Kohn lives actually in the Boston area with his wife and two children, and virtually at alfiekohn.

    836 thoughts on “The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Coddled Kids, Helicopter Parents, and Other Phony Crises”

    1. This book is the application of Alfie Kohn's parenting philosophy, set out in his book Unconditional Parenting, to current fashions criticizing today's parenting as too indulgent, children as too lazy, and of course, children as too spoiled. It turns out, Kohn argues, that being mean to children, having them compete against others, and controlling their behaviour down to the details - isn't very good for their development. It might seem obvious, but the book is full of evidence that it is very f [...]


    2. I received a copy of this book for free through Giveaways. I am of two completely opposing opinions in regard to this book. On the one hand, I find much of the research the author cites to be accurate, agree with a number of the conclusions he comes to, and overall see the educational system and typical parenting methods as generally failing to help kids fully realize their potential. On the other, Myth of the Spoiled Child is frustratingly ideological, frequently goes after opposing viewpoints [...]


    3. Writing about what’s wrong with the youngest generation, also known as Millennials, has been exhausted as a subject. Mostly writers have come to blame bad parenting for all the ills of the world. No matter which side of the political spectrum you fall on, you’re likely to believe that strict parenting is the best way to go. Alfie Kohn, author of Myth of the Spoiled Child, challenges these commonly held beliefs and calls for a more balanced style of parenting.Kohn does an excellent job easing [...]


    4. Alfie Kohn’s ideas are always radical and incendiary and this book is no exception. I’m a huge fan of all his writing, and find that his ideas crystallise concerns I have always had as a teacher and parent about the focus of contemporary education. It’s still confronting to read, though, as it forces the reader to examine the extent to which most of us rely on rewards, competition and unquestioning compliance to ‘educate’ our children. I believe this may be the best of his books so far [...]


    5. Originally posted here: The Steadfast ReaderI received a copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.Confession time: I picked up this book as a hate read. I opened it with the attitude, "This is gonna be a crazy, liberal book on how we ought to be coddling out children and never setting in any boundaries." Rather quickly, through citing studies, statistics, and history - Kohn was able to draw me around to his point of view and I found myself in agreement with many of h [...]


    6. Title: The Myth of the Spoiled ChildAuthor: Alfie KohnPublisher: Da Capo Lifelong BooksDate: 2014Pages: (preview copy e-book) via netgalley: 282Author Page: Alfie Kohn[You need to read this before you take another glance at this page: the FCC wants you to know that it is imperative information that I received a free copy of this book in exchange for my unbiased review. I'm glad that's off my chest and I hope you feel better knowing it.]I was warned about Alfie Kohn when I was in graduate school. [...]


    7. Pro: Actual researched, scientific, statistical data to back up arguments against the "accepted-as-truth" claims of KIDS THESE DAYS being too narcissistic, their egos too tender, their parents too helicopter-y and permissive, how these kids need to learn grit if they're going to succeed, and delaying gratification is a skill worth cultivating rull hard. Turns out, a lot of it is based on what FEELS like should be true, but is often the exact opposite. There are so many "truisms" that we simply t [...]


    8. The money quote in this is probably:We’re told that parents push their children too hard to excel (by ghostwriting their homework and hiring tutors, and demanding that they triumph over their peers), but also that parents try to protect kids from competition (by giving trophies to everyone), that expectations have declined, that too much attention is paid to making children happy.Similarly, young adults are described as self-satisfied twits—more pleased with themselves than their accomplishm [...]


    9. Heard a bit of an interview with him on NPR where he said timeouts were bad and only encouraged selfish behavior in kids and I got intrigued (and never had a chance to finish listening to the segment). However, as my first parenting book read, it was a total disappointment. It's really just an effort to debunk popular themes in the media today. I agree with many of the premises (doesn't every generation think kids these days are getting off easy, have inflated grades?), but Kohn takes many sensi [...]


    10. In Kohn's typical style, he cites many studies to prove that every generation criticizes the next one for being spoiled, etc. He is arguing for parents to raise kids to question, and he argues that most commentators, advice columnists and parent educators are actually quite conservative in promoting approaches and strategies that do not do this. While I agree with his overall point, the book is long and tedious, and once again lacking in specific examples of how to put what he is advocating into [...]


    11. Everybody seems to think millennials are terrible; narcissistic, self-absorbed, spoiled, entitled, who get trophies just for showing up and demand everything automatically work out for them. But what if I told you the conventional wisdom was wrong? You probably wouldn't believe me. Which is why Kohn's book is so important. He digs into the actual empirical evidence, the research, the studies, and the science to show that not only is there no evidence that kids are overprotected, that they are an [...]


    12. Audiobook. Great narration.Alfie Kohn is a proponent of progressive parenting, and many other books like Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids and How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk are influenced by his writing. I really enjoyed this book as I felt like I was getting a better explanation of the psychological studies behind the beliefs in so many other books I read this year.It's also just kind of fun to see someone unravel beliefs you have picked up in media and haven't really [...]


    13. I always enjoy reading Kohn's radically progressive ideas which challenge our views of children. This book focuses largely on debunking myths about an existence of "the good ole days" when children knew their place-- it also examines popular buzzword phenomenons in education & parenting, such as "grit". It's a great read, just don't expect it to be a parenting book. It's more of a social psychology book focusing on society's view of children. Kohn is inspiring and makes a great case for work [...]


    14. There certainly was a lot in this book to absorb! I would say it deserves a re-read, and it's the kind of book it would be worth having a copy of for that purpose, or to lend out. The real tragedy is that the people who would pick up and read this book aren't the ones who need convincing, and the people who need convincing aren't the ones who will read this book. Paying close attention to the material herein, and the scientific evidence cited supporting Kohn's position, will be a great resource [...]


    15. As always, Kohn's insight is appreciated if a bit skewed. I struggled with some confirmation bias reading it. Being a homeschool mom, I've made a lot of sacrifices for my son's well being. This book confirmed that we've done the right thing by him and in that in the long run, he can be a well-rounded, kind and successful kid because of, not in spite of, his upbringing.


    16. This is not my favorite book by Kohn, but it makes good points and includes lots of research to support his position. I would recommend Unconditional Parenting or Punished by Rewards before this one.


    17. Alfie debunks, debunks, debunks and gives the middle finger to "conventional" wisdom about parenting. #alfiekohnrules


    18. A thoughtful challenge to the conventional wisdom about parenting and "spoiled" children. It shows that the criticism leveled at this generation are the same complaints of every decade previous, and are based on three assumptions: -rewards are necessary to motivate people-these rewards should be made artificially scarce and given only to winners, and-the best way to prepare children for future unhappiness and failure is to make them experience unhappiness and failure right now.Kohn examines each [...]


    19. 649.7 KOHeAudioMy review: In this book, author heavily attack what he dubbed as epidemic traditionalists views: children are spoiled, they are over indulgent, a sense of entitlement, less discipline, narcissism, high self-esteem, regardless what political view: Conservative vs. liberal. It is worth reading exactly because of author strong opposition of this current popular education trends. p8 The sensible alternative to overparenting is not less parenting but better parenting. The alternative t [...]


    20. Kitap,konusu itibariyle çok ilgimi çekti ama içeriği beni hayal kırıklığına uğrattı.Hayatımın son 15 yılında çocuklarla vakit geçiren biriyim.Bu kitapta ısrarla,asla öyle olmadıkları söylenen çocuklarla ve velilerle karşılaşıyorum.Tam da bu nedenle eğitimde ve doğal olarak günümüz dünyasında sorunlar çoğalıyor.Keşke her şey Alfie Kohn dünyasındaki gibi olmaydı ama benim ve çevremdeki bir çok insana göre maalesef böyle değil.Kitabın bir diğer eksis [...]


    21. This book really surprised me. It shock many of the tenements of my view of achievement psychology. It does not provide as many answers as one might desire, but it asks the right questions. Well worth reading. I summarised it is a blog post here: mrbystromflips.wordpress/



    22. basically support for helicopter parenting. has some good points but as in all parenting books, take it with a grain of salt.


    23. worth re listening. many concepts included and beginning of book throws u off for the meat of the book. but another thinker by kohn


    24. Everyone should read this book before having opinions on 'those spoiled kids'. Who knows, it might make them (the opinionated people) less obnoxious.


    25. Let's just get this out of the way: I'm at heart a social conservative and Alfie Kohn is a liberal rotter that people of my ilk sometimes refer to as Eloi. It is hard to respect a man who is more optimistic about the nature of humanity than Thomas Hobbes, and not to laugh cruelly at those who would build a kinder gentler world.Yet for all my puritanical misanthropy, I have to commend Mr. Kohn. For you see, it is very possible to be right in the lessons of one's instructions but wrong in it's spi [...]


    26. pretty sure this is my first Alfie Kohn book. Odd sense of deja vu in that I've probably read a million (+/- 5) columns about education or parenting that allude to his work. Sort of analogous to how I never saw an episode of The Sopranos, but for a number of years it was so much in the general media that I felt as though I had seen ityway, I liked the actual guy's writings much more than the one liners about it had led me to believe. Very funny for one thing as he takes down the logic and eviden [...]


    27. Guess what--there is no evidence that today's youth are going to hell in a handbasket. In fact, adults have been harping about how terrible today's youth are since before the invention of hell or even handbaskets. I bet cavemen were saying, "Caves aren't good enough for this generation. They just want to laze around in 'huts' and plant grass. Probably just planting it to smoke or make booze, the slackers! REAL men hunt and gather! None of this poking sticks into dirt nonsense."Kohn's jist is tha [...]


    28. Kohn's view of how adults should interact with children fits like a glove to my own. His book, Punished By Rewards, was a timely read as I was forming my approach to teaching classrooms instead of working with just my own three children. He put into words the very ideas that I was discovering worked best for me - and he backed them up with data. In a nutshell, he promotes 'working with children' rather than 'doing to children'. In his book he does a good job distinguishing between guiding childr [...]


    29. Kohn argues here that everything you hear about the current generation of children (that they're more spoiled, self-centered, entitled, and lazy than the previous generations) is baseless. He also argues that theories you hear a lot in pop journalism ("everybody gets a trophy for participating" makes children stop trying hard, grades and competition are necessary to toughen up kids, etc) have no scientific evidence to back them up. Kohn's main point is that there is no scientific data to back up [...]


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